Take a fresh look at New Year's resolutions

Newton - No one knows how many New Year’s resolutions are made in good faith in January, only to be broken before March. If you are like most Americans, you have probably started the year by resolving to change old habits like smoking or overeating, or by initiating new behaviors such as exercising, spending more time with the family, or “getting organized.” Turning over a new leaf can be a positive, energizing experience if we approach it realistically. The following advice is offered by Claire Caines, MSW, a licensed clinical social worker and director of the Caines Centers for Psychotherapy in Stillwater. Instead of holding on to rigid standards, try being gentle with yourself. Ask yourself what the consequences of the proposed change are going to be, and determine if the benefits outweigh the disadvantages. If the answer is yes, formulate an action plan that is consistent with your likes and dislikes, as well as your lifestyle. A grapefruit diet will not work if you hate grapefruit, and an exercise plan that requires you to be at the gym at 7 a.m. will fail if you tend to be a late riser. Also keep in mind that some changes are made easier by enlisting help. Many people have quit smoking or drinking with the help of a support group or counseling. In thinking about changes you’d like to make, it’s helpful to consider life-enhancing, no-fail resolutions that you can maintain throughout the year. Some good resolutions for 2006 are to enjoy each moment as it happens or to trust to your own instincts. Above all, stick to resolutions you can live with all year long. The Caines Center for Psychotherapy is located at 936 Potters Rd., Newton. For information, call 973-300-0428 or visit online at cainescenter.com.